Body shaming...
It's no secret that I battled with a little ''embonpoint'' all my life.
The other day, I accompanied my lovely daughter to her counselling appointment for eating disorders.
The counsellor pointed at me, out the blue:
''Your Mum is a big woman, she must have an eating disorder and passed it onto you.''
I was speechless. OK, I'm not slim but neither was the counsellor.
My daughter saw my face crumpled.
"Mum, don't listen, you're the most beautiful, kindest woman I know.''
This is why I absolutely love my daughter to bits and I hope she'll fight this atypical anorexia.
- Category: Psychological
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Frenchie over 2 years ago
I had to write about this because I never find a quirky, witty, fast answer when people say nasty things. My daughter was really upset on my behalf. How can a counsellor say that in front of someone struggling with their eating disorder?
I just wish I could help my daughter more... 😢 -
VerityAlways over 2 years ago
All power to both of you. Stay Strong!
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VerityAlways over 2 years ago
Body shamers try and erode your confidence but please do not give them an ear or let them have at you.
My sister faces this, and she still says, "Beware of the next words I can be very heavy on your feather-light bones." -
Frenchie over 2 years ago
hehehe, I like this quote from your sister 😉
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Neville Hunt over 2 years ago
Frenchie, what a lovely daughter to stick up for you, particularly when she's dealing with considerable problems of her own. As for coming up with the sharp repartee on demand when you’re shocked by the sheer audacity of someone who should know better, you’re not alone in that. It shows that you have breeding and savoir faire. That counsellor will come unstuck one day soon when someone either reports her, or maybe scratches her eyes out!...
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Neville Hunt over 2 years ago
....Re anorexia, every case must be different I’m sure, but my niece in her early teens was seriously anorexic and hospitalised too. These days though, fifteen plus years later, she’s happy in a stable relationship with a terrific guy and doing well careerwise, having earlier achieved a First Class honours degree from a top English university. So things really can improve.
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Frenchie over 2 years ago
Thanks Neville. It gives me hope for her. Her anorexia has been classed as ''atypical'' but I can only see the typical.
We are moving on from this particular services. This woman was only an assessor but I don't see how the counsellors are going to be better.
With the spring on its way, I also hope it will lift her spirits.
